This may sound harsh, but yes, give up on that relationship. It's doing you great harm, and since you've read Sorrow"s Web, you know I really do know what I'm talking about! And the research on the effects of a depressed mother (like yours) on you is even more extensive than it was when I wrote my book. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! Your mother is not capable of loving you.

Think about yourself , and about how important you are to your child.

I thought that writing the book would exorcise my mother (she's been dead for 30 years) but no such luck! So get yourself a good therapist. It will be worth every penny, and it won't take very long.

Onward and upward,
Anne