Lisa has hit the nail on the head.

There's no convincing anyone not to take up with someone obnoxious once they have made their mind up.
When togetherness rules the parents opinion is worthless.
So what if they don't agree with their parents and agree to discontinue the relationship for the sake of piece of mind?
Wouldn't they be depressed?
Wouldn't they try to do something about it and try to renew the relationship?
I would!!!!!! I have!!!
If they don't, they have to do something
They could find someone new.
I love Sally, Sally is bipolar, I will love Lucy instead.
This cannot happen because they would have to lie to themselves
Depression is the lie ------------the relationship with Sally is the truth
How would you get over Sally or Jim
The only way is to replace Sally without entertaining the likes of Lucy

****thinking****

The only way is to replace Sally without lying to yourself
You could get drunk and knock on Sally door
You could take up heroin and convince Sally she needs some
You could idle away your time by looking at images of naked Sally look alikes'
You could go into battle and save the world for Sally.
You could convince Sally that she's lying and she doesn't love you, which would mean you needn't lie to yourself that you don't love her
Better still you could convince yourself that Sally tells lies, which would mean you needn't be connected to her, which would mean you cannot lie to yourself about loving her.

Whatever action you take it has to replace the lie you are rebelling against and at the same time the depression.
It has to maintain survival

The questions about denial and Lisa mentions distancing oneself from reality

Isn't the denial distancing oneself from Sally who is telling the truth because to admit the truth would be to admit that they have been lying to themselves and this lying would bring back the depression?

Isn't it that they *****lie***** to Sally to expose Sally's truth which gives their lies more meaning, and the depression more meaning, and singularity more meaning?
because all Sally's truths are based upon togetherness.

Isn't it that they if they do take up with Lucy it will only be on the condition the Lucy doesn't like Sally, which would mean that Lucy is lying, which makes Lucy depressed, which makes Lucy the ideal partner?
because when Lucy lies she is replacing Sally without them needing to lie to themselves that they miss Sally.

When you tell the truth expect them to react
When they tell a lie they expect you to react
When they go away they are avoiding your truths
When they close up on you they are smothering your truths
When they say they love you in a different kind of way they are rebelling against their lies by removing you from their conscious
When presented with a pile of books they cannot face the truth
When they meet the therapist they avoid the truths
When they take medication they find a whole new set of different acceptable truths
If they avoid therapy and medication they are quite happy rebelling by removing your input to take either from their conscious
When they say they ain't depressed they ain't because your truths are meaningless in the light of other truthful agendas

I need the truth to get off this board
can anyone agree with what I am saying

there is no escaping a lie
a lie need a resolution
the body cannot function if lies persist
if you are lying to yourself that things will work out one way or the other
you are depressed and malfunctioning

find a resolution