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Knowing you are appreciated is a requirement in marriage, not a nice to know.
But it's not really knowing I'm appreciated so much (although that is lacking as well). It's just an acknowledgement of, for lack of a better way to say it, what she is doing to me. To me it goes back to ownership of the problem and the condition. The depression is caused by so many other things--me, the kids, the house, her family, her friends...we're all players in this obviously but this is my wife's condition, and even if everything were the way she wanted it, she would still be depressed. She won't get better until she understands that.
What I want now is just an acknowledgement of how this is hard for me. I'm not going to get it, but it's what I want. I don't want any trophies or awards about how well I've handled this. I want someone to acknowledge what I am going through. Not just someone, I want my wife to acknowledge it.
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