Shattered,

My husband pushed his parents away too....I never thought he would do it to me as well.   I didn't know how to deal with the fact that he couldn't stand his mom anymore.  Really I thought he would work through it.  I thought that when we had kids he would realize how important his own mom was.   But this didn't happen. 

My husband believes that I put him on the bottom of "my list" and he never got any attention.  Now I would rub his shoulders at night and then he would tell me that I didn't do a good enough job (this is after he would wait 20 minutes and tell me I was rubbing in the wrong spot!!!)   I have been blamed for everything.  

What I realize now is how unsatisfied my husband was/is inside himself and how he is not strong enough to look inside himself.   He can only survive by blaming the people who love him the most.  So sad.