I'm so sorry the talk went as anticipated.

In my letter i tried to establish a boundry that I couldn't and wouldn't talk about huge major decisions before we had all these physical results.


You've both taught him something here, and learned something about yourself. You taught him that you didn't mean what you wrote and have a weakened sense of self/boundaries. You've learned that you are going to have to state boundaries that you can and WILL maintain. So don't set the bar too high, yet. Gotta build up to it.

"Do, or do not. There is no try." Yoda

It may be trite, but good heavens, wit and wisdom from a screenwriter as voiced by a Jim Hensen puppeteer.

Edited to add:

"No" is a complete sentence.  Nice people (nice women) can, do and should use it more often.  You do not owe him an explanation for your every decision (or declining an invitation), action or thought.  You know that he's doing and saying things that are irrational--why give him more opportunities to trash you?

Don't feel badly though, everybody gets burned at least once or twice.  

Last Edited By: Ghada1967 Oct 18 10 7:52 PM. Edited 1 times.