I agree with you on that one DAML

I can see now that for me and my exbph it was a cycle.. round and round..
like chicken and egg... which came first ..
i think alot of my ex's mental health issues were genetic... lots of mental illness in his family.. mother schizophrenic..(that was her diagnosis in the lat 60s) ..now days she would probably be diagnosed wiht bipolar instead... just that she had a few episodes where she heard voices etc..

I know in the end our marriage was probably toxic... and so it added to his depression... I dont think I was specifically the cause of certain episodes but definetly the fact that I didnt understand what i was dealing with didnt help the situation... then I would push ... TRY to fix him.. try to help him.. he would withdraw because it was too much pressure... the more he withdrew the more I tried... gosh .. crazy really when i look back

IF i had the time over .. id certainly do it different.. dont know if the outcome would have been any different .. but I would have come through it alot of better for sure.

Ange

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