RCrC: Are you sure we aren't married to the same person? Except for the holiday thing, which usually isn't quite as bad, your wife's symptoms fit mine exactly--right down the the computer and Facebook. When she comes in the room, she cannot sit on the same sofa as me. When I sit down next to her, she'll eventually get off the sofa and go on the floor. Discussions are held without her eye contact. When she's not on those, she'll sit for hours endlessly playing solitare on her phone. I have 3 young kids and a dog who are treated better than me, although they don't get the consistent attention they deserve either. Instead of trying to keep up everything around the house, I simply let some things go to keep from running myself ragged. I do most of the stuff around the house, and I figure we hardly have any visitors to entertain anymore anyway to keep up appearances.

This Thanksgiving, at the last minute, she decided she didn't want to visit her relatives, so we stayed home. She's spent nearly the whole holiday weekend asleep on the sofa (day and night) and complaining of constant headaches. I have gently suggested a doctor's visit to deal with the headaches (extending over a week straight), but no response...no energy.

In short, I know what you are going through. It feels like you are slowly getting ground up inside as you seldom see the person you once knew and love. Keep hanging in there and attempt to focus on enjoying your life and get out to do activities without her. You cannot afford to go to that dark place.