Thanks, Cruz!

I just sent him a fairly neutral e-mail; no, "I love yous" or oxox which can be taken the wrong way. I did make mention that I thought all our differences come down to semantics (which is pretty well the case). Cheers to not having arguments about nothing!

Glad to know I'm not the only one who has to deal with being the initiator. And also glad to hear that the solution is to not engage in arguing; it's taken me a while, and I have to also remember to always take a step back when he does take something I say negatively; because I can get offended, and that just poisons the atmosphere; because he _can't_ help being negative; but I _can_ do something about my reactions. Thank you for sharing, as I'm realizing how I can fine tune this.

Hopefully I will get the timing right re: amount of contact. Now that I've sent him an e-mail, the ball is in his court, so clearly, he now sets the pace.

It's difficult when the last interaction is from him, leaving it for me to wait (and I can't read whether his silence "means" he's hurting or just silence meaning nothing at all).

So we'll see. Hopefully I will hear back.

JB - I am so sorry that you are going through what you are. I have been reading your posts. I hope you get some sleep. I find watching TV helps me as well.

XOXOXO