Thanks guys. All great advice. 

419, I agree we should be able to go with them. I've tried and hinted with my Dh, but he's not interested. But then yes, gets to lie to the pdoc and the pdoc listens! Maddening. 

Opti, I wish I had the energy to stay. I don't think I do any more. For me, as long as he was on his meds and doing what it took to maintain the D, I was willing to stay for good times and bad. But if he's going to cut his meds in half and I'm going to be dealing with his nasty fallout?! Uh uh. I can't. I don't deserve that. I deserve better! This hasn't been the first time he's lied to himself that he doesn't need the meds. And two years ago he promised he'd stay on them, and now here we are again. I know the drill. It's one thing when it's the first time for certain things. But I get the pattern now. It will always been an issue for him to stay on meds. And he's nasty without them. 

ange, yes, already talking to my dear friend who's always here for me. She's a saint. Thank goodness for her. And looking for work. Fingers crossed!