i think they reach out to others because the expectations from that person are different ..

WE KNOW them from a time, when perhaps they wernt depressed or suffering..
WE have a history with them... we have things to compare.. (and how many times do we compare and tell them about it.. ?? I know i did ! and that is something we need to stop doing )

One of the things that happened with my exbph when he cheated (and he confirmed this many times when he was more stable)
was, that he could be a different person .. more hippy... a 'cook'... (lol.. sorry that makes me laugh because i always encouraged him to cook.. but he never wanted to.. then when he left me for bimbo #1 he was asking me for MY recipes so he could impress her!! too funny) they can be different with new people..

Also .. the new feelings of love give them a RUSH.. bit like drugs .. they can come up a bit from the low of depression with that new high.

Of course everyone is different and will have different reasons for seeking out new friends.. lovers.... etc.

Ange

Take  what  you  need . . .  leave  the  rest .Blue_butterfly