Exactly, cookie! They can pretend all they want, but the D will always rear its ugly head sooner or later. My ex actually told me that he pretended to be affectionate and loving in the beginning of our relationship, and then it just got too hard to fake it anymore. Really?? I feel SORRY for the women he's talking to. They have no idea the storm that's about to hit them. I hope they are a lot smarter than I was.