Thanks for the responses. Some days, I would give anything to have a friend I could tell this all too. Most everyone has drifted away over the years and I know a lot of them have simply avoided the issues associated with us. It hard to be a friend to someone who varies between being glad to see you and acting like she has never met you before. D has affected all aspects of my life as it now seems to be my W's favorite passtime.

I've learned what works and what does not in my marrage. Some days are better than others. I really miss being close to someone, but that is not a part of my life anymore. The holidays always bring out the worse aspects of D possible in my wife. Granted she does her best to just show them to me, not letting anyone else know what really happen in our house. I've floated the idea of talking with someone about our issues, but she does not want anyone else to know our/her business. Once we get to January 2, things will calm down. I've just got to make it through to then.