So I just need to write about what I did last night. Our daughter had a sleepover planned, turned out the parents had a last minute dinner party at their house, so wasn't terribly convenient to still have the sleepover, but they did it anyway. My daughter, her friend and I went to an event at school, and happened to be finishing up as DH was on his way from work, so he picked us up (we can not drive where we live) and we went to drop the girls at our friends house. One thing led to another, DH went in, said hi, and we were invited to stay for a drink, but we weren't invited to the dinner party. I had to leave and relieve the sitter who was with our son, before I left, I told DH, stay, enjoy a quick drink but don't stay long, we weren't invited, we hadn't eaten, son was waiting at home etc. He said no problem. He stayed over an hour and a half, I was fuming, I really didn't want to make our friends angry by "crashing" the party and I felt like he should have excused himself. So I sent him a snarky text and was snippy with him when he called. What the heck was my problem?? He came home and told me he was at a 1 when he went there, feeling pretty low, got up to an 8 while there, and my snarky attitude pulled him back down to a 2. I felt pretty bad. He said he had no intention of staying for dinner, but my messages were pretty rude. I know I don't always help our situation either. I know these people too, they are very kind and giving, I'm sure, in retrospect they had no problem with DH staying, in fact by the time he left, they said we should all just come back and join them. We didn't it was getting late and close to our son's bedtime. I've apologized, I certainly did not need to react that way.

He came in to snuggle again before he left for his morning workout, it was pretty nice and we do have date night planned for tonight. I just need to keep my mouth under control, we don't have to talk about our problems all of the time, I don't need to be snarky....he's told me that sometimes he just likes to be with me, in silence, so we can just enjoy each other and just be. That's hard for me, I'm definitely a talker!! I'm working on it.