Jenn... its good that you can see that you could have handle the situation a bit differently..

I think when we become mothers we really do find it easy to start being mother to our spouses too..
by that I mean... we tell them what to do and how to do it.. (they call it nagging lol)

I, know , when i was married and my kids small, that I was guilty of bossing(nagging) my exbph just as if he were one of the kids..
I didnt see it or mean it like that.. but It sure did come across like that.. (I only acknowledged it after my marriage ended, when i was doing my ME work )
I always thought i was nurturing .. caring.. but I can see now that sometimes it came across as me trying to control .. I can see that sometimes I acted like he didnt have a mind of his own and couldnt use his own judgement on things ... bad bad bad...
When we do our ME work ... thats when we realise the part we play in all our relationships ..in good ways and also bad ways... and we all do .. we all bring issues and we all bring judgements and behaviours to our relationships...

huggs
Ange

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