Last night didn't end so well either unfortunately. After a really nice dinner, great conversation etc. we met up with some friends and wound up in a loud bar. At the end of the night, he started chatting up one of our friend's (local) girlfriends, who we do not know very well. I was physically unable to get to him, and he did not come up for air for at least 15 minutes, not checking to see what I was doing or anything. I tried text messaging and calling, just to get his attention and let him know it was making me very uncomfortable. Even my girlfriend who was more mobile than I was tried to get his attention, and the boyfriend just shrugged and walked off. Finally, I broke out and left. I was very upset. He followed and a nasty scene ensued at home. We never yell at each other, but he was yelling so loud and hard I could feel his breath blowing my hair around. He called me the C word (which I absolutely CAN NOT STAND), and a @%@!!, among other things. He feels like I completely overreacted. Perhaps I did, but I just feel like there is no room for error right now. We were up half the night, arguing, and we had both had too much to drink. At one point he told me to just buy a plane ticket and go home, passports flying. He says he had no ill intentions at all, of course, that the thought hadn't crossed his mind, "I would never try to pick up on my friends girlfriend!!" Maybe not, maybe I did overreact, it was yucky and felt bad. We haven't had a blow out like that in years.

Taut, I sincerely appreciate your perspective. I need to try to remember that when we're in the thick of it. I don't feel too bad about my behavior last night. I did not make a scene in front of our friends, but we did make a very quick exit. Today has been pretty mellow and low key, we both feel pretty out of it physically and we are both exhausted. We're up and we're down, up and down, like a yo-yo. You should have seen him the dinner party night, his lip was quivering as though he had just gotten into big trouble, he looked ready to cry, reminded me of our daughter when she's being held accountable. It's all so tiring. I'm beat.