DH had STD testing, everything was negative, according to him, although I haven't seen anything in writing.
The Dr. just called me, and I'm totally clear, the only thing that hasn't come back is HPV and that is going to take a while longer


What a relief! Now--keep it that way. (Although condoms are NOT 100% effective at preventing HPV.)

DH called me earlier today and asked if I'd gotten my test results. Bells and whistles went off but he said he was just curious to know if I'd gotten them. LIAR, he just told me he's having some kind of problem "down there" (he wasn't in a position to explain) which is why he asked me.


Remember, men generally know a great deal sooner than women if they have an STD. So that is a great big flapping red flag. For him to have, hold and read YOUR clean report but you not to have the same--stinks. I would be getting STD tested again in 3, 6 and 9 months from now. Plus condoms from this day forth.

Marriage is about a lot of things--one of them is a stated and implied lifetime lease, sole claim and exclusive access to each other's fun bits. Fun bits are NOT exclusively genitalia.

Edited to add:

Of course exclusivity has any number of definitions to any number of people.  But I think most of us would agree that the introduction of another party, or parties, to the relationship would be something to be discussed and agreed upon PRIOR to it occurring, and only with the permission of both primary partipants.  Including the ability to end the involvement of any and all others.  

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