I agree Taut on their behavior. But I've been thinking over this since September, my whole marriage in fact. I can't live like this any more. I can't. I've been patiently waiting to see how I'd feel in January. And he's just gotten worse. I can't do it any more. I need to get a job first. So that will take time. It's not like I can really act on it now. But I know I'm done. Everyone says you'll know when you know. I know.