Cruz... IF your done.. then be done..
dont invest anymore of your emotional energy in him.. right now as I see it.. your still doing that.. and you could be investing that emotional energy in YOU and your son..

let him BE.. and allow yourself to just BE too..

set about making your own life.... even if you cant remove yourself or him from the house..

DONT react to his shite... just go about your business...

that mine mean that you need to single parent NOW.... without his help... without having any expecations of him right now..

I understand that you want him to step up and be a parent.. (looking after your son while you go out etc.. ) but maybe its a good thing if he cant do that right now... it might not be in your sons best interests if dad isnt coping to be left at home with him.. dont rely on your BPH to step up to the plate there right now.. because he obviously isnt in the right headspace to do it.

Maybe you can go out and take your son with you ... go to a friends.. etc.. or family.

hope you get that job soon!

Ange

Take  what  you  need . . .  leave  the  rest .Blue_butterfly