Yes Ange, I think that's what I've realized today. That I am doing this all alone. I've accepted he's not going to help out and has no plans on doing anything remotely nice that might seem like it's for me, even if it means hurting his son. As far as not getting upset by him, I don't think that's going to happen yet. Too soon. Shoot, my friend who divorced her husband this summer, still gets upset by her ex. So I can hardly be expected to be ready for that when I'm in the thick of it. But I will just start making plans with my son and I from here on out. Already told a friend that for tomorrow, to get together with her and her kids. And have plans with another friend with my son on the next day. So I'm pretty much planning life like that already. It's painful to think he's not making the effort for my son right now. But like you said, maybe it's for the best. I think it's too painful for him to spend time with our son. I know he's not doing it to be mean to him. Just sucks all around.