Thank you so much. It took me a long time to realise that he was depressed prior to him going (I thought there was another woman) but since he went and visited our dr I realised how ill he was. I try to be understanding even when he says he has no feelings but I must admit that it hurts. I tell myself that words are not the most important thing and that he shows that he cares by coming round to spend time with us. I think that depression is a terrible thing for EVERYBODY but I guess that I find it easier to be naive and hope than to give up on us. Maybe I still believe that he loves me even though he doesn't feel it. Because his strange behaviour extends to the rest of his family then I guess I don't think it is just our marriage, although I acknowledge my part to play in his depression. I am sorry that you wife is not sympathetic. Having experienced mild depression myself recently due to my situation, I can categorically say that pulling yourself together is the last thing that you can do. Sending you good wishes.