Whether it's my wife, or her by proxy (she picked a high conflict lawyer) it's clear that rational agreements aren't possible.


Well, it will cost her dearly and I'm not simply discussing the money.

I'm sorry, Jp. I'm an argumentative person by nature and I don't even bother engaging with the BPD in my life when he's clearly in the throes of his BPD (let alone his BP1). You just can't argue and reason with someone who isn't interested in listening to what you have to say (without formulating a rebuttal while you're speaking) and doesn't really WANT to know what you have to say, or how you feel about anything.

Focus on the future. Healthy well-adjusted boys (sans surgery!). A healthy relationship somewhere down the line with someone who isn't looking to tear you a new one at every opportunity. It's possible, Jp. In fact, it's probable. Eventually.

Best wishes -- Ghada