I note that after ~2 years of using a phone with a keyboard, and telling me she can't figure out how to type on it, when I am simply not answering her phone calls, she has suddenly magically acquired the ability to send texts from her phone


Jp, she lies. She simply lies and she does it in order to get what she wants at that moment in time (see: PD).

She also sent me a long email starting with "I love you" with rationally constructed sentences and details about what is bothering her. Which makes it very hard to ignore. I am going to call her soon.


Hoover Manuever. Please reconsider your plan of action.

To me this sounds like classic BPD abandonment paranoia. Plus projection (she's the one self-admittedly flirting with other men).


Yes, and it's straight out of the "How to Most Effectively Fvck with a Non's Mind Playbook".

I want to tell her that reconciliation is possible but first she needs to work on these issues (we need to work on our separate issues is the polite way to say this) and only after we see sustained and consistent improvement should we try to move forward on any reconciliation plans.


You realize that sustained and consistent improvement is years in the future, yes? And that in order to no longer be classified as BPD she only has to make a therapist tick off four of the boxes--rather than five. Picture what four of those would remain and how they can still wreak havoc on your lives.

Tattoo this somewhere, if necessary. At least burn it into your consciousness: You cannot reason with a PD.