OK, between the feedback I got here, the feedback I got from some of my "personal advisors", and the little voice in the back of my head (which oddly enough speaks with an Australian female accent now) I do not plan on sending any letter

I guess I am just frustrated at the length, cost, and stress of this thing dragging out for an unknown length of time

I just want the long term legal guarantees to be put into place so that I can focus ahead a bit instead of being stuck in limbo...I also look forward to the time where the legal rights I feel pretty comfortable will be awarded to me so that my wife understands what's what, and our interactions can be even more limited then they are now.