You're being set up. Perhaps not intentionally, but this is a test you can not pass. And, when you fail because the demand is unreasonable, you will be blamed for the outcome; thus, your wife's behavior to you will continue to be justified in her mind. It's a nasty dynamic. Been there, done that, but with different issues. Only you can know if you've reached the point where you're no longer interested in placating the beast for the meager rewards.