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General discussion, 36000 threads. Cases, three thousand plus. Three male SO successes certainly and six female ones approximately (excluding relapses). Even on these estimates and allowing for a high margin of error these are not figures to be proud of ? Wrong topic, wrong approach perhaps?
Sufferers remove the void in their lives by generating anger and guilt. For them there are no other solutions. For them the obvious, depending upon the gender, is to get the SO angry, or give them some guilt. Typically there are no exceptions. Give them what they want and they will think they have recovered. For them all isn't as well as they believe. They end up living their lives using our emotions.
Nothing wrong with doing your own thing as long as you don't give them the ammunition to pick on you. Far better to let them know you are immune, or you have experienced the same before and overcome it. Far better having them use someone else's anger and guilt. Those that read Anne's books and use their own intuition have a much better success rate. Those that enter into discussion and allow others to perpetuate their anger and guilt always fail. In here we have anger talking to guilt and guilt talking to anger with all the blame directed towards a depression no one is able to fully relate to the symptoms. My opinion.
We discount their ability to walk away is something they need to do given the once in a lifetime opportunity. We conjecture their compulsion to walk away from the family they loved and treasured is because they are depressed .We discount they are avoiding touch to stop us taking our emotions back off them. We conjecture their boundaries are there because we are to much for them to cope with.
What enables someone in the void to escape it and move out into their own accommodation, or back in with their parents, or in the case of male's into the arms of another woman? What is this opportunity they need to grab? Where does it come from? What are the symptoms of it? What are they able to do that they couldn't do before? What do believe they can do? Having thought about it to me there's only one answer.
They discover they have the ability to walk as long as they have assistance.
The tightrope can be walked by concentrating on ones own fear and pride to get to the other end. Take away the fear and it can be walked with pride and the anger of the audience. Take away the pride and it can be walked with fear and the guilt of the audience. If they try this any other way and they will fall off for sure. As for their audience, their audience is you. All you need to do is shut your eyes, or gasp and they know they will get to the other end. I remember seeing clowns using this technique. And there ability to perpetuate it using deceit.
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