-- we live in a house in the country, all that is adjacent to us is a field used by a farmer (who bought the field this year from the developer who built our house)
- the farmer shares the same private road to access his field as we use to get to our house
- my wife hates the farmer (probably because he won't sell us the field - which in my view whilst dissapointing is sometimes how life goes & you can't make him sell)
- my wife has become increasingly obsessed by the farmers behaviour & in her view how he ruins our life
- fast forward to today & we come back from holiday my wife notices a couple of muddy tire marks on the grass at the edge of the private road where the farmer has driven partly off the road onto the grass whilst moving his sheep into his field
- my wife goes mental about the marks (which in anyone elses view would not be that noticeable & will fade away in a few days), see above post


She doesn't share well, does she? Nor does she have enough to do so that she cannot indulge in her obsessions.

Don't talk to the farmer. He doesn't need to be dragged into this nonsense anymore than you wish to be.

Tell your wife that you do not find a couple of muddy marks to be upsetting, that if she wishes to discuss it with the local police station to feel free to do so. I really doubt she's going to do ANYTHING to find out anymore information above and beyond complaining to you. When she brings it up again (and she WILL), simply ask her what has SHE DONE to fix the problem and tell her that as you do not find it problematic, you will not be doing anything at all. If she has no new information, then there is nothing to discuss.

You own a piece of property, the other gentleman owns some property and the driveway will be shared. Done.

Has she gotten a job, or found some volunteer work somewhere OUT OF THE HOUSE yet? You mentioned that her family also thought she needed an outlet, I think.