Hi Ghada

Thanks for confirming my thoughts on various matters.

I know she won't do anything as I've already told her to be go ahead & sort it herself if she thinks it's easy - her response was that i was a disgrace & a coward, that in her opinion a real husband would sort this out not leave a woman to do it. I know this is just irrational rubbish so to be honest I have disengaged from further debate.

With regards to you last point no she has not found employment, voluntary work or another worthwhile distraction. But that's for her to sort - I will support on that front but not push her into things, if I did push her into a job/voluntary work it's just something else she could blame me for if it didn't turn out the way she liked.

Unfortunately it's the same with treatment - i can suggest it's a good idea but only she will decide when/if she wants to do it.

pp