the insight & interpretation from people on these message boards is impressive, vin commented "....... her issues as a teenager. If she has been fought over, or had to make a difficult choice and you alleviated her distress upon meeting then the recurrence of the same kind of issues and the lack of resolution could take her back to her teenage years."

- her parents divorced when she was a teenager, so being fought over might fit well. Although I don't have too much insight into her parents divorce it's an area she was never keen to discuss.

one other factor which may be significant is this (and i'm not sure why it's not been more obvious to me earlier) - a close friend of hers (probably her principal friend before i met her) emigrated to the other side of the world a few years back, the friend was killed in an accident earlier this year. I checked the dates tonight & this was probably just a couple of weeks before the whole farmer/land things started - i'm never too smart at puzzling this stuff out but i wonder if this is in the issues mix somewhere?

as for the latest developments as far as i know she hasn't filed for divorce at this point and is still staying with her mother - she sent me two texts today, both polite & functional - one asking if i could leave out her phone charger as she was going over to the house tommorow to collect some stuff & the other asking me if i recognised a number on her phone as she had a missed call, i responded politely to her questions but didn't add anything more like asking how she was doing

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