PP

Yes it would fit. This friend must have been given some guilt for what happened during the divorce. I'm not saying she was involved in it. I'm saying she was just given it by being told about it. From then on your wife left this guilt with the friend. It didn't matter to your wife whether or not her friend acted on it as long as she had it. This would have left your wife with the ability to reason through the circumstances of the time without them affecting her development. After the friends death your wife lost her friends guilt and this gave her her pride back which meant the  circumstances were exposed, but what circumstances. The circumstances the friends guilt was answering died with her. The only circumstances left to question were those that could be given a guilty response. The land.

PP and Male SOs 
The judge and a friend were stopped by the cops for speeding. The judge was driving and the friend took the blame to save the judge. The judge had to take the friends purpose off them and use his intuition to do so. The case never went to trial. The judge was left with the intuition to remember that purpose counts when setting off and the friend was left with the lesson to avoid taking judges anywhere otherwise they could be prosecuted. The friend dies. The judge feels guilty himself and his pride is hurt. The purpose the friend was going to use in their defense were lost to the judge when the friend died. In court the next day the judge has to face a defendant caught speeding. The judges pride surfaces and he needs to take away the defendants purpose to pass it on. He takes it off them and reasons it through as being his own when he was caught and gives the defendant a condition discharge leaving him with the judges guilt. The judge is now able to drive anywhere with purpose as long as the defendant is not in the car trying to get back their own purpose leaving him with his guilt.

Female SOs
The judge and a friend were stopped by the cops for speeding. The judge was driving and the friend took the blame to save the judge. The judge had to pass his bad habits over to the friend and be a free of them in case he was questioned by the police. The case never went to trial. The judge was left with the freedom to answer however he wished if caught again and the friend was left with the anger that if he ever got into a car again he would have to experience the judges bad habits. The friend died. The judge felt angry and this anger brought up his fears. The judges bad habits were lost to him when the friend died. In court the next day the judge had to face a defendant caught speeding. The judges fear of facing his bad habits again surfaced and he needed to pass these fears on to the defendant. He past them over by way of example and gave the defendant a condition discharge leaving the defendant with the judges anger. The judge is now free to drive in any way he wishes and long as he remembers to avoid the defendant and make sure he isn't given his bad attributes back again.

The answer for PP and male SOs should be to write about him finding another purpose for the land (the issue) and that this purpose is important to him and consequentially should be unimportant to her. I haven't time to relate this to the example though purpose and importance seem to be what wins through.

The answer for female SOs could be to write about her using other attributes than him to face the issue and that these attributes are important to her and consequentially unimportant to him. Though this could be the other way around. Though it could be wrong. Guesswork

Some read the books and succeed without dwelling on the cause. Others who believe there is only one cause tend to fail.