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Jan 11 13 8:15 PM
Andi1253 wrote: do...it just seemed like a simple "thanks for trying" made a world of difference to him. WrongWay, since you have the understand of what the DBF goes thru, was this a good thing to tell him? Or am I just trying to see what I want to see? Hi Andi; Hard to really say. I asked my wife about how she handled me. She said, “You were friggin bear to live with!!! Most of the time I ignored you. Every comment I made you snapped at or got upset at. I couldn’t talk to you. If these fallout people can find a way to communicate while the person was under depression, I bow to them, because I couldn’t talk to you!” Oh…..I guess she is still a little sensitive about that….. My advice is that you have to set boundaries. It is so easy to get sucked into this emotional whirlpool that most people forget to take care of themselves. Make sure you are clear when you feel like a doormat versus a supporter. You have limits. Maybe you just hit one of those limits. I hope this was helpful. Wrongway
Andi1253 wrote:
do...it just seemed like a simple "thanks for trying" made a world of difference to him. WrongWay, since you have the understand of what the DBF goes thru, was this a good thing to tell him? Or am I just trying to see what I want to see?
Hi Andi;
Hard to really say. I asked my wife about how she handled me. She said,
“You were friggin bear to live with!!! Most of the time I ignored you. Every comment I made you snapped at or got upset at. I couldn’t talk to you. If these fallout people can find a way to communicate while the person was under depression, I bow to them, because I couldn’t talk to you!”
Oh…..I guess she is still a little sensitive about that….. My advice is that you have to set boundaries. It is so easy to get sucked into this emotional whirlpool that most people forget to take care of themselves. Make sure you are clear when you feel like a doormat versus a supporter. You have limits. Maybe you just hit one of those limits.
I hope this was helpful.
Wrongway
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