Thank you, WW...your insights, coming from the other side of our dilemma, really do help me to maybe understand a little more where the DSO's head is at...it may not make much sense to those of us who have never gone through it (I find myself shaking my head sometimes, knowing that we fallouters could probably help in making the situation a little more tolerable for them, if they would let us. They dont have to go through this alone, especially when they need our support the most), but it is what it is. I know my DSO is far from out of his mental fog, but I am very pleased that he is now opening up and trying to talk about it. I have no idea, but I hope that getting some things off his chest, knowing that I won't judge or get upset with him (as hard as that is), just might help out, even in a very small way. I don't know if he is starting to come out of his fog...he tells me he has a few good days, but mostly bad ones. I hope that, little by little, he'll start having more and more good days, and less bad ones. Only time will tell.

LOL at those "moobies". My guy has them too... If anyone watched Seinfeld...I use to tell him I would buy him a Bro. (masculine bra)

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