That's a very good question, and one that not a lot of people understand. Many thanks to your emotional side for agreeing with me! Really, what it comes down to, is that no matter our official status as a couple, we still love each other. We broke up because of our individual emotional issues and our inability to deal with them, as well as each others. There wasn't any infidelity or hatred or anger towards one another, for the most part. Being intimate with him also doesn't lull me into a false sense of security when it comes to our relationship; it's not like after sex I think everything is ok and we're back together. I have my therapist to thank for helping me continue to see that. But we love each other, and every now and then we need intimacy from each other, although I will admit I need it more than he does, although at times he needs it too.