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There is a fine line here.  Does he acknowledge his depression?

The following is from several of my previous posts

I experienced something that I was not aware of until yesterday. My doctor reduced my medication, and my wife was explaining her daily adventures at the office. I knew logically that it was just small talk. Every time she said a question or comment, I wanted to snap at her by saying a biting remark. I was concentrating so hard, that my wife noticed I had a bead of sweat dripping down my forehead. She asked, "What was wrong?"

I told her my dilemma. She asked if I had spoken to my doctor, and I told her I was awaiting a call back.

I was right on that edge of anger and mental clarity. I didn't realize I was concentrating so hard. She said I looked like I was trying to "Poop." (Yes I am trying to be funny)

As of this morning I am back on a normal dose. Back onto the clarity side. Mental fog is beginning to dissipate.

**Tip** Sometimes when your DSO is quiet, they are concentrating on not snapping back.

 

I asked my wife about how she handled me. She said,

“You were friggin bear to live with!!! Most of the time I ignored you. Every comment I made you snapped at or got upset at. I couldn’t talk to you. If these fallout people can find a way to communicate while the person was under depression, I bow to them, because I couldn’t talk to you!”

Oh…..I guess she is still a little sensitive about that….. My advice is that you have to set boundaries. It is so easy to get sucked into this emotional whirlpool that most people forget to take care of themselves. Make sure you are clear when you feel like a doormat versus a supporter. You have limits. Maybe you just hit one of those limits.

I hope this was helpful.