He does acknowledge his depression. He's told me at different times that its getting really bad, and why, etc. but he still refuses to do anything about it. This pushing me away stuff activates my anxiety like crazy, then I start acting in ways that are not fair to either of us. I've been trying to call him for 4 days, and I've been subsequently going nuts for 3 and a half days. I think I just need to calm down. Your posts make a lot of sense. If you don't mind me asking, how long did you know you needed help before you eventually got it?