Fluffy - fabulous post and offers so much insight. So good to learn from those who have gone before....my dbf is finally coming out of the fog thanks to the new meds starting to work. Your insight on his thoughts as he comes back are super helpful. Yesterday, when it seemed we were back to the pre-depression nice interactions, I made the huge mistake of telling him this had been hard on me too. He asked why, what was wrong? It was like he had erased the last 3 months! I said I knew it was depression speaking, but he had said some hurtful things. He said he didn't remember. So I said he said he could never be in love with me, had no feelings of love for me, and wanted time to decide if he wanted to break up. He said he never said those things (!!!!!!!!!). When I continued to discuss that this had been hard on me, he got very angry. He reacted as if I was blaming him and needing an apology (NOT at all my intent - just wanted to regain our emotional intimacy and talk about my feelings - MISTAKE). Said he was getting out of the hole and the last thing he needed is to talk about it and be reminded of it. It's like he wants to ignore the whole thing. I got a bit upset and started to cry (MISTAKE), he got madder. So I guess I learnt two things - that maybe he was so in the fog he truly did not remember saying these hurtful things? And also that he is going to cope with this by being in denial? Are these normal reactions Fluffy?
Andi - sorry to intrude on your post - but I think these reactions may be helpful for you to know about as things move forward for you too.