Dazed- OMG! How ever did you endure that? I know I would have not reacted well at all, and forgiveness would be possible, but not without a lot of time. Geez! And i hear ya when you say - "I've never seen or heard him like that before and I've known him 21 years. I will never forget the things that were said and how they were said." I remember when my husband told me he was leaving me and asking for a divorce. It was like it was there was this alien imposter, posing as my husband. Even the tone of his voice and facial expressions changed right before my eyes. I think what you have just said has inspired a new post.

Andi- Ahh to be 19 years old again. Back when relationships with a boy would fail, you'd feel like crap for a wee spell and then boom, you moved along on to the next boy, or the next class, or the next movie or whatever!. Life seemed simpler then.

Alicea- Even though you may think, or even if he tells you this, depressed people don't forget what they shared with their partners - they just avoid thinking about it for various reasons because they just can't cope with stuff like guilt, shame, or a myriad other heavy emotions associated with breakups. Also, I think they see relationships differently, past or current when under the fog. These are my assumptions - my two cents.