"Why can't I be like men having midlife crisis-- just buy a new car and get on with my life already." Your guilt destroys your will to get on with your life.
"Just don't know if I want to be strapped with his cat"-- The loss of pride brings in doubts which increase the guilt.
"we are always here"--Isn't this guilt
"analysis paralysis"--Isn't this the loss of pride

"I am coming to the point where I am accepting that I wouldn't want a future tied to a man I couldn't rely on, who was emotionally volatile and in denial about his mood disorder - why would I want to commit myself to that"--Three meaningful reasons. Add in the bitchiness and I would run a mile.

Yet even though the symptoms are fairly consistent from case to case some do make it through. Which brings into question what those who don't make it through have in common.