WW- I'm sorry if I was insensitive. Everyone is welcome here of course, and you have been an absolute treasure to all of us by sharing your story so open and thoughtfully.

But i propose another way of looking at things.

1. How men suck- Men don't suck. In fact, many of the posts on this board are talking about women who are desperately chasing the depressed men in their lives. Some have flown across the ocean. Many of them wait by the phone, desperate to hear their mens' sentiments or voices. Almost all of us here miss the men in our lives, and the happiness we often shared with them.

2. How men make stupid decisions- Well for starters, men don't corner the market on stupid decisions. In fact, many of the posters here have said things to the effect, "Darn it I screwed up again and said something stupid again!" (like talking about the relationship or offering to fix things) and come to this room for support afterwards. It's tough walking on eggshells around a depressed person, and because of that fact we have the potential to make stupid decisions. Heck, some of us even feel like silly 13 years who's brain's fall out when their partner texts us. We make dumb decisions too ya know.

3.[i]Wrong way can you get us some sangria…thanks - If I made you feel excluded, or like the token man in this discussion I was wrong. I know, the giggling about mani pedis and Ferrari's and big boobs was silly....but it also was a bit of fun. Ya know, reading all these books about depression, hearing sad voices from our partners, the pain of separation, divorce and the desperate angst in trying to figure out what to do about all of this- well....it can be draining. I think by nature women are nurturers and somewhat suited to be caregivers (even though we all aren't perfect at it) but ya know something- we need giggles to break things up every once and a while. I've allowed many of my giggles to be put on hold for quite a while and I miss them and want to get back to where I can selfishly create and share in more. But Wrong way, if you'd like, I'll gladly bring YOU a sangria and ask that you please join us in giggles and fun! (But only on Wednesdays, right? )

4. Also don’t do those things that those other men are doing…or we’ll kill ya…- Oh, I think you might has misinterpreted something here. No one here wants to kill anyone. Everyone here is just trying to understand...and yes, at times it can be frustrating. In fact, I think the over arching views posted here were about how to get our partners back- not do away with them.

To be fair, I guess there was a bit of an estrogen fest going on there for a few posts......but we have learned so much from all that you have posted that we just assumed that you knew how valuable you were to everyone who posts here. I personally apologize again if anything I said in any way I made you feel like this was a male bashing session.