WW,

"ยท Your feelings are consumed by AA (Anger,Apathy)
o Anyone asking for an opinion you either feel AA
o Anyone wants you to do a favor you feel AA
o Anyone want you to go get help you feel AA
o Etc , etc"

Wow I wish I had known this when I was with my bf. I must have caused a lot of AA in him without intending to. I asked him for his opinions because I respected his opinions. He tended to be indecisive and I wanted him to have a say in terms of his preferences so we could decide together. I wanted him to stand up for himself. After all, he used to always say to me, "stand up for yourself". But maybe all that was too much for him. Would it have been better/made him feel better if I made all the decisions for both of us, did everything for both of us, and force my opinions and preferences on him? Wouldn't he have felt that I was being selfish and had no respect for him?