alicea wrote:


WW,

Would it have been better/made him feel better if I made all the decisions for both of us, did everything for both of us, and force my opinions and preferences on him? Wouldn't he have felt that I was being selfish and had no respect for him?

 

It’s a fine line.  There were times where I felt better and wanted to pipe in my opinion.  The deeper the depression, the less I wanted to decide on things.  I think to be aware is enough.  If you start asking for an opinion and he begins to scowl….then I would just back away, and say “nevermind.”