Alicea, its hard to know, I suppose what you really need to examine is what is it that you would hope to achieve by it? Are you hoping that this would initiate some response? Will it make you feel better to tell him that? How will you deal with it if your email is met by silence, or anger. When we initiate communication, we put ourselves in the firing line for God only knows what. I know I've done it myself so many times in the past year and a half and it never gave me the results I wanted. I think it made me feel better for a little while and then I would feel wretched again. You might also have to consider the possibility that he may just delete anything you send to him without reading it. I found a conversation, even by email was only possible when my xDSO initiated it last July, I did send him a letter in March by email, which he never responded to it, even with just an acknowledgement that he had received it and that really hurt, as I put so much thought and consideration into it, it was a gentle, heartfelt letter with no animosity, advice or bitterness, but still nothing. Only when he needed my help did he contact me with the very first attempt at real communication and an acknowledgement of the hurt he had caused me 12 months before. I wouldnt want you to end up feeling worse rather than better for sending an email, so please give it some thought and only do so if you really believe that you will feel better for it, regardless of how he reacts,
hugs,
Erin