IWNGU, take your time, patience is a virtue and we fallouters know that more than most, I am not the most patient person in the world, being more inclined to doing than procrastinating, but think through all of the possible consequences of your actions with your DSO and what impact they have on you, before you decide on a course of action, I wish you well,
hugs,
Erin
Hanik, I spent alot of time worrying about the words I used and the phrases I used and whether it was 'neutral' enough, at the end of the day, I dont think it actually mattered, but at the time it made me feel better and that was a good enough reason to send it, I'd only just finished reading Anne's books as I was stuck at home with a broken ankle, I dont regret sending it, it did give me closure of a sort at the time, but has it made any real difference? the answer would have to be no, so this is life now, without an SO, D or otherwise, it will be fine, just not what I expected, or what any of us expected I reckon, you seem to be doing well, and I am glad you are starting to see light at the end of the tunnel (forgive the cliche - its late in Dublin!)
take care,
Erin