I am glad you saw your therapist & were able to discuss this with her!  Over the years, my husband had been given that assignment of making a list of why he married me several times...I do not think he ever actually completed it.

At one point, he was also given the assignment of writing a list of the things he "hated" about me by a totally screwy therapist who was totally unprofessional & ultimately made his d much, much worse!  Unfortunately, he left that list out on the counter...where either our children or I could find it.  Luckily, I found it & not the kids.  It was very painful to read:(  When he stopped seeing that therapist & that particular d episode ended, he burned the list...