Also WW, I have a question, how would you describe how you feel towards your wife at the moment? I dont mean the physical side of your relationship, I'm talking about the normal bonding that happens when two people are together. Do you trust her? Do you trust her judgement? Do you treat her with respect, tenderness. civility? I am not trying to upset you, I just think you need to be challenged on your perception of things. If you truly believe you have nothing to bring to this relationship and dont have any respect for her, then why are you still in this marriage? Do you doubt your own feelings as they are at the moment? If you were certain of them, then surely you would have already left?