Team BB,
I'm breaking in here for a second (sorry WW) to ask what some of your strategies were for getting past the infidelity. You mentioned online sites aimed at infidelity - are there any you would recommend? My Dbf admitted he was having an affair about 5 minutes before we admitted him to the hospital for depression, suicidal thoughts, and an addiction to painkillers. He is still inpatient at the moment, starting to come back to himself with medication and therapy. He is extremely remorseful and wants to work things out. I do as well, and am trying to focus on the state he was in when he had the affair, but I admit it is extremely difficult. He told so many lies and caused so much damage.... I'm looking for any tools we can use to try and move forward and rebuild. I'd appreciate any help you could offer!