That seems to be the tough thing.  My wife and I have evolved into 2 different people.  We’ve been married for 11 ½ years and dating 2 ½  years prior to that.  My depression has always been there.  I feel bad we grew into 2 different people.  I’m not sure if the attraction can be rekindled.  I will keep an open mind, but I don’t know if there is any hope at this point.  She and I both agreed to try to maintain our friendship.  Easier for me to try to do this.  I am not sure about the other way around if I were to find someone else.  That would add a new dynamic to the relationship.

-WW