WW- Good luck with the marriage counsellor I hope it helps. I agree with fluffy you sound like there is enough friendship there to make things work and make it more than a friendship. Can you be honest about lack of attraction to your wife? I went through same thing with my ex. I think it would help her To understand. This way you can both try to rekindle the flame? My ex and i both lost attraction to each other but my love was still there for her. In the last depression episode She said her love was gone. I don't really believe it although there is no doubt her 6 month depressive episode took away this love. I felt her love for me the last time we caught up. But for now ill move on meet new ppl if my ex sees her depression is clouding her thoughts and gets help maybe can work on things again.