WW- I do hope it goes well with your wife. And the feelings come back. From my experience with the ex, I lost my attraction to her about a year ago- when she told me recently she wasn't attracted to me I admitted I wasn't attracted to her either but I still loved her. For me the attraction changed as my ex gained a lot of weight, also her low to medium depression over last couple of years stopped me wanted to be physical with her expect for a hug. I'm not sure why but I just felt her moods all the time stopped me feeling romantic towards her too. The difference is my ex said at the last she fell out of love with me. Which I can see over last few months seemed to be the case - mind you she came off her meds 4 months ago and has been so depressed since. Ex now seems to be trying to lose weight and look after herself - but mentally I've noticed only a slight change in last few weeks. All the anger and negative view of life is still with her. I was hoping for a moment of clarity to try and mention to give therapy or meds a go to stop her feeling !*%$ - this will be my last attempt. I know it's very unlikely she will listen to me given she claims not to love me, but seeing her last weekend I saw moments of happiness in her and at the end of the day she mentions, she had a great time! She hasn't said anything like that in a LONG time.