WW- thanks for your help with this! It does make sense what you say - I know I need to look after myself now. It's interesting how you asked how receptive she was when I asked about why she stopped her medication. She was completely defensive - I don't need to tell you! Then I said 'ok, but I assume to stop weight gain. Then she says that was one of the issues. When I asked her a month ago if it felt different off the meds- she said she felt more emotional but could 'hear' music more. This is the only detail I could get from her. WW- one question you might be able to help me with - she said she wants passion and signed up for dating site. To me it seems crazy given she has been a zombie for 6 months! Last weekend at soccer I said passion comes from within, also I mentioned how we both needed help on our issues (me anxiety, her d) but her response was too late now. But later in the day her defences came down a lot and she was laughing and smiling a lot I noticed her change in mood.i explain I still had feelings for her etc and how we could of worked on things. Did you ever want passion when depressed?