Reading this I see what I so often see on here...posters wanting to share glimmers of hope & positivity & being met with negative reactions from others.  Clearly, we want to share positives as we all freely share negatives...but that is often met with warnings which are posted out of concern for people making the same mistakes they made.  What a wonderful board where caring people try to help others & try to spare them the pain they have been through!  But unfortunately, we all tend to repeat mistakes we have been warned about...after all, every situation is different even if there are many similarities...I guess that really you never unless you try...we need to make our own mistakes & learn from them...or make our own decisions that change our lives